Without a goal, you can’t score

Yesterday was the first of November. The first day of a new month. For many of us, the first of November means the first day of holiday preparations as we look forward to relaxing with a cup of apple cider (or pumpkin space latte, whatever tickles your fancy) and spending time with our loved ones. With the ideas of feasting on large birds, delicious side dishes (my favorite!) and beautiful holiday trimmings dancing in our heads, it’s so easy to become distracted by the holiday festivities. Because of that, we need to set goals for ourselves, for this month and every month, in order to keep ourselves on track, focused, and to make sure that we finish the year off as strong as we started it.

You may be thinking to yourself, “but… the holidays are a time for giving back, spending time with our families and friends, relaxing and not working so much!” As much as I agree with you that we absolutely need to make time for our loved ones and ourselves, it is extremely important and essential to our personal and professional development that we budget our time wisely. By scheduling our obligations accordingly, we make sure that we do remain on track while still making time to do what we want to do!

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Be like Beyoncé

Time. It is the most precious thing in the world. Once you give someone your time, you can never have it back. Time is intangible but at the same time, extremely valuable. So much so, we use it like currency for the things we want. We exchange it for attention, love, money, fame, and even power. Many are unaware of how valuable their time really is while others will do anything to have more of it.

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Happy birthday! An Open Letter to My Younger Self

Dear 22 year old Melissa,

HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIRL! Last night was rough, I know! Your best friend really got you good! She feed you drink after drink but at least you know, she would always take good care of you. It’s a good thing you were graceful, even until the end, and that picture she took will be a great way to finish the story you’re going to tell about how you started your year! She made sure you had a good time and looking back at the hilarious riding-with-your-best-friend-screaming-your-favorite-song-at-the-top-of-your-lungs-riding-along-side-her-boyfriend’s-car-roadtriplike-memory, you had a great time! You’ll soon learn that it’s those funny, spontaneous life moments are the ones you’ll appreciate the most.

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Fear. We’re all afraid of it for it is compelling as it is seductive. You try to resist from going back to it but it knows just how to make you feel what it wants you to feel, and it does it well. It knows how to ride up your spine and make the hairs on the back of your neck stand up. It is strong because it makes you weak. It is powerful while you feel powerless. It is a constant reminder of your limitations, mistakes, and failures. It is like a thorn under the arc of your foot, slowly going deeper and deeper with every step you take as it drives into your soul. It is a major roadblock on your journey for it will be your hardest obstacle.

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How feeling uncomfortable can be a good thing

No one likes to feel uncomfortable. That’s why it’s referred to as such. Most people are interested in remaining in their comfort zone while a few brave souls enjoy venturing out ever so often. Growing the realms of your comfort zone can bring you much excitement and success, especially if you utilize a Positive Mental Attitude (for a better understanding or just to increase your chances of being successful, read Success Through a Positive Mental Attitude by Napoleon Hill). The benefits of venturing outside of your comfort zone includes enjoying a range of experiences, adventurous activities and expansion of your skill sets. Once you have built the courage to push the limits of your comfort zone and maintain that momentum, you will be unstoppable.

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How to react to failure

“We’re going to fail, you just have to make sure you don’t fail when it counts”– Grace Choi, Inventor of Mink

On your journey to achieve success, whatever that means to you, you will fail time and time again. (This is said not to be negative or pessimistic but to initiate realization and acceptance.) Once you have failed, you will have two choices: you can give up, crawl back to your comfort zone where you are paralyzed by your fears of failure, OR you can accept the fact that you failed, reflect back on your mistakes, make the proper adjustments, and try again.

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Why wait?

It is a common misconception that if you work hard and wait long enough, you will eventually get what you want. I can tell you right now, you are simply lying to yourself. In order to be successful, yes, you will have to work hard. However, it is not in the way that you may think. Waiting around for what you want as if you’re a distressed Princess stuck in a tower, waiting for Prince Charming to come rescue you, is pathetic and depressing. You are simply wasting the best years of your life waiting for SOMEONE ELSE to give you want you need.

So I say, why wait for what you want? Why not get up and get it yourself?

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