The hard truth about change

It's not f***ing easy. Change is not easy, nor is it suppose to be. Unfortunately, by hoping we can change a bad habit or personality trait overnight, we set us up for failure. Behavior change takes time, discipline, a deeper understanding of who you are and why you do the things you do. (Ask any …

If you’re going to fight, you better do it right

It's been difficult as of late to escape hate and toxicity. It feels like everyone is fighting each other - trying to one up one other or prove the other person wrong. ...what are we even fighting for? Is there 'winner' here when all is said and done? Is there some kind of prize we're …

BE KIND

At the end of every show, Ellen Degeneres reminds us to be kind to one another. When I first heard this, I thought about how sweet it was. At the same time, strange to have to remind ourselves to be kind to each other. Naturally I thought, isn't that what you're suppose to do anyway? What …

Why Everyday Should Be Valentine’s Day

Gentlemen (and ladies) before you freak out (or get too excited), I am not saying you HAVE TO take your significant other to expensive dinners, plan elaborate scavenger hunts reminiscing every milestone you had, or propose every day. No. All of the activities I listed are socially constructed ideology that we have conformed to accept …

3 Hard Lessons about Life That You Learn from Dating

When it comes to dating and relationship, there are a lot of hard life lessons that all we must go through in order to grow and truly understand ourselves as an individual and as someone's partner. We've all been through those tough relationships: our first love the player/heart breaker the one that got away the …

Without a goal, you can’t score

Yesterday was the first of November. The first day of a new month. For many of us, the first of November means the first day of holiday preparations as we look forward to relaxing with a cup of apple cider (or pumpkin space latte, whatever tickles your fancy) and spending time with our loved ones. …

If I didn’t love myself

If I didn't love myself, I wouldn't be where I am today. I wouldn't be able to push myself to try new things. I would learn that being comfortable is what's most important and that self-growth doesn't matter. I would learn to go with the flow and do what all my friends are doing because …

Happy birthday! An Open Letter to My Younger Self

Dear 22 year old Melissa, HAPPY BIRTHDAY GIRL! Last night was rough, I know! Your best friend really got you good! She feed you drink after drink but at least you know, she would always take good care of you. It's a good thing you were graceful, even until the end, and that picture she took …

Vulnerability

In the simplest way, being vulnerable means opening yourself up. It means opening up to someone and giving them the ability to hurt you, whether it's physically or emotionally. Sounds like it could be pretty dangerous right? So why do we do it? Why should we give so much power to someone we might not know …

What it feels like to think you’re falling in love

You look back on how the two of you met and you can't help but laugh to yourself. Let's be honest, you didn't think that moment would have meant anything, until now. It wasn't until now, after enough that has happened for the two of you to get together, that it would be anything more than just …